If you are a strong woman who doesn’t let herself be pushed around easily, you may perceive yourself as someone to be edited out of God’s kingdom. After all, God only likes weak women, right? When you take a look around you at the women who seem to so easily sport the banner God-is-pleased-with-me and when you consider the authoritative input on biblical womanhood that you’ve received from the spiritually elite, you may find it very difficult not to be discouraged.
So many men and women in the church paint the delight God finds in womankind using only one color; they recognize one type of personality, one temperament as fitting for the truly feminine. But, is this how God really feels? Does He discount you if you have not naturally been endowed with a poor and lowly spirit; an absence of confidence or ambition; a weak will? Is it really possible that He doesn’t have room for you, your gifts and natural ability in His will if you’re too boisterous or able?
No, I don’t think that God’s that small. I also can’t believe that He would create a woman that He didn’t already have a brilliant purpose for. Surely, if He has made you bold and decisive it was because He could use you to great advantage in a specific nook of His creation. However you have been made, there is something distinct of His character that He has embedded within you that He is intent on bringing out and utilizing to exalt Himself.
Now, let’s make it clear that being strong does not exempt you from the wonderful status of being one of God’s beloved masterpieces, but neither does your strength designate you as flawless, lacking nothing. Like every one of us, in order to truly be something, you cannot be a piece that does not have an intimate connection with your master. Your identity and destiny are contingent on the Master and you, the piece, being connected.
Although the Bible never condemns strength in women, it does witness to a certain strength that it regards as God-centered versus a lesser form of strength that is vain and woman-centered. Certainly, Scripture reveals God’s desires to make us whole and healthy–full of vigor and zest, even full of conviction and certainty–but it does not advocate what is nothing more than self-serving, bull-headed strength.
God has emphasized the ruling of a gentle spirit and a temperate heart as the fountain of our strength. He desires to make us women who know that God is the reason that we need not cower before the pressures of evil all around us. Even women who can devote ourselves to caring for others because we know Who has assumed the responsibility of caring for us. Only God can put such a spirit within us, but we can be certain He will, for His passion is to make us testimonies to the One who is able to make our hearts rest, even as we recognize all the limits of our own ability.
If you desire such strength, don’t hesitate to ask! God is waiting to make you full of His in everything.